Saturday, March 30, 2019

Gandipet Lake

For past 18 months Hyderabad is my home. I am not going to write about famous Hyderabadi Biryani here. That is well known. Compared to Pune, I find Hyderabadi restaurants are more liberal in serving sizes.

Anyways coming back to Gandipet Lake (aka Osmansagar Lake).
It is closer to Gachibowli area where I am living. Thus so fare I have visited this area 3-4 times. Lake is a huge water reservoir with a park adjacent to it. Kids love it. From the walkway you can enjoy the beautiful scenary over there.

Today we reached there around sunset and it was very beautiful in every sense.
Sunset at the Lake

Shiva Temple

Thursday, March 28, 2019

Trevor Noah

If you are into American Politics then the name "Trevor Noah" is not a mystery to you. His show The Daily show with Trevor Noah on Comedy Central is very popular.

I happened to watch some of his episodes on Youtube about a month back and since then I have been hooked on to it. He and his team presents serious issues about politics, technology, environmental and social issues in a very light way which is fun to watch and understand.

Recently I got a chance to read his book Born a Crime in which he walks us through his childhood. He is son of a white father and a black mother in Apartheid era of South Africa. The book gives a glimpse of social and racial issues in South Africa.

I wish we too had a similar show in India where raw facts were presented in light way. 

Sunday, March 24, 2019

Keep check on your thoughts

We cannot leave our thoughts unguarded. For example if we are feeling sad or anger at something or someone, we must take a break and think back, whether our feeling is truly justified. Is it really a big deal? Opposite is also true. We need to check our exuberance and control ourselves from committing something huge in a very heightened jubilant mode.

Daniel Goleman writes in his book Focus - "Attention to our inner selves and outer world provides the mechanism to voluntary Regulation of our thoughts and feelings."

Monday, March 18, 2019

Bahot Dukha Mann

I am hooked to this song from Mukkabaj movie (I haven't yet got the chance to see movie)


This is a song which touches your soul. Awesome lyrics by Hussain Haidry and very soft music by Rachita Arora and well sung by Dev Arijit and Rachita Arora.

Vocal rendition makes you feel the pain of characters and will calm you down.

Sunday, November 19, 2017

Departure

Every departure is small death. Converse is not true. Just as entropy always increases, so does departure raises loss of life moments. These losses are unknown. And unknown losses cause more grief than the known ones.

But unless you depart, how will new possibilities form? How will you witness new tale? How will we ever know the unknown? You lose some in the hope of some gain.

And hope is the greatest gift to humanity as told in Pandora's perilious tale. After all the sorrows and pain she found hope. So l must depart to find that new hope. I must leave to find a new tale.

(C) Anup Mayank

Thursday, November 16, 2017

Book Review - The Unfrazzled-Kite


The Unfrazzled KiteThe Unfrazzled Kite by Kamal Panda
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This is a story of love, sacrifice and human values. Story revolves around a small place in Orissa. Author has beautifully woven a story of 3 generations. In fact there are multiple sub-stories along with the main course of story. I think there were several other POV characters who have their own side of story to tell, but has not been captured here. E.x. one of the main character Smita leaves a lot to yearn for her. How she endured all is kind of omitted. Nevertheless it is a short read for your enjoyment. Hope you like it.

PS: Author is a close friend of mine. So my views are slightly biased here, despite my attempt to provide an unbiased review. Hope he writes more books on varied topics in coming days.

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Thursday, October 12, 2017

Book Review - Ghachar Ghochar


Ghachar GhocharGhachar Ghochar by Vivek Shanbhag
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This was a perfect dosage of Sambhar with Coffee. A tale of how fortune changes the life of close knit family. The family is still close, but their values have now changed. To maintain this seemingly good life what all compromises and atrocities they commit both to themselves and other. Author has very cleverly painted the scenes of everyday battles in Indian households. It also shows how muddled our thinking is and we are unable to take a right decision and remain indecisive. Essentially we live in Ghachar Ghochar.

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Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Book Review : Olympus an Indian Retelling of the Greek Myths


Olympus: An Indian Retelling of the Greek MythsOlympus: An Indian Retelling of the Greek Myths by Devdutt Pattanaik
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I am a fan of reading mythical stories. In that regards this book was a treat to me. I have enjoyed reading stories about several Greek heroes and their tragedies. Now I understand the phrase "Greek Tragedy". Devdutt has tried to draw parallels with Indian mythical stories. My only complain with author is that he has tried to cram a lot of stories in a short book. Thus it looks like reading notes for an exam. But nevertheless it is a good book to get a crash course in Greek Mythology.

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Thursday, August 24, 2017

Book review : The Time Keeper


The Time KeeperThe Time Keeper by Mitch Albom
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

A good story on how we waste our beautiful days and nights to be in a hurry to do one thing or the other. We are increasingly fail to appreciate what we have got and running after what we don't have. I happened to pick this book out of library just by chance and I am glad that I gave life a chance here.

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Sunday, August 20, 2017

Craziness behind Kid's education

Today I happened to watch a forwarded video of a very young child reading 1, 2, 3, 4, 5.

It is horrible to see that mother (my presumption) is shouting at such a young kid and also slapping her. And to make matter worse someone was filming it and shared it to whole wide world. 

This again proves that phones are getting smart, even cities are getting smart, but people in general are getting dumber. What possible good will come out of it. Will the child appreciate it or start hating it. What about her crushed soul.

I am part of a whatsapp group of the parents of my kids class. This group is helpful in information sharing about school, missed classes etc. But again I see a disturbing trend that at exam time there is desperation and undue pressure on kids. Parents discussing exam at 1130 in night is definitely not a good sign. 

If you are a parent of any such young kid, please let him/her be a kid. By all means educate them. But don't put undue pressure on them. They need our love and patience. Not the crazy, angry scolding attitude. 


Monday, August 14, 2017

Staying away from facebook

Last weekend we made a sudden plan to visit natural beauties around Pune. And as it happens that during drive, you talk. So me and my wife were talking of life in general. 

One of the point we both agreed that mobile phone usage is increasing in the house. Even kids are getting hooked to them, which we universally agree is not a good thing. 

But the problem is that how can we stop kids if we are continuously looking at mobile phone for whatsapp or facebook or gmail. Out of these we made an immediate resolution is that we are going to stop facebook from that day itself.

Now it has been a week and both of us haven't logged in to facebook. It is tempting, to go and check on others. Especially looks like facebook is keeping a track of who is not logging in. We get an email from facebook saying so and so has added a pic or commented on this or that.

But so far we have not gave in to temptation. Well it has not completely eliminated all distraction, but it is a good start. I am hoping to keep out of facebook for a longer duration. Lets see how successful we can be. 

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Three questions

(1) When is the right time to begin everything?

(2) Who are the important people to listen to?

(3) What is the most important thing to do?


These are the questions discussed in a short story written by Leo Tolstoy. Tolstoy gives a very valuable life lesson in form of this story and I will encourage readers to go through this story and other such short stories.

However to satiate the query raised in above 3 questions, following is the answer

(1) There is only one time that is right- Now ! It is the most important time because it is the only time when we have any power.

(2) The most important man is he with whom you are, for no man knows whether he will ever have dealings with any one else.

(3) Most important thing to do is, to do that man good. Help him, serve him best as you can.

Saturday, February 20, 2016

मनचला मौसम

देखो मौसम के ये धोखे
सर्दी बाद गर्मी आयी
कहाँ गए वसंत के वो झोंके


(c) Anup Mayank 2016

Thursday, November 12, 2015

पशोपेश

बालेवाड़ी की वो सन सन करती हवा
मेरी कांच की खिड़कियों से टकराती हुई
एक दस्तक देती है कि बाहर निकल
जिन्दगी पुकारती है बाहर निकल

काम बहुत थे और थी जद्दोजहद बड़ी
मन को समझाता बस एक और फिर सही
मगर मन को रोक न पाया मैं
ऊंची उठती उन लहरों को रोक न पाया मैं

बंद किये सारे झमेले के पिटारे
खोला मन का वो कोना
फिर निकल ही गया बाहर
जिंदगी से कहा चलो मुस्कुराएँ। 

Monday, February 23, 2015

Jokers on the road

Pune road is filled up with jokers on the road. They simply don't care about their lives or of the lives of others.

Take for example a joker, who is riding a motorcycle. Suddenly a call comes in. Now this joker will not stop driving. Instead what he will do is bring out his smartphone from pocket, put it between his shoulder and ear. Now in this awkward position he will keep on driving with his both hands on the handle. Everyday i see 5 such jokers on the rode in my 2 hour daily commute.

Then there are others who will be checking their email or sms while they are driving car on a busy road or crossing an intersection. Buddy what is that important that you cannot wait for few minutes and then park your car on roadside and check it.

This list can go on and on and i am sure this is not just a Pune phenomena.

Friday, February 20, 2015

एक दुपहरी

इस राख को इतना न कुरेदो कहीं चिंगारी दबी होगी
ना  खुरेचो मेरे जज्बातों को  सूखे से अश्क छलक जायेंगे।
ऐ शाम तेरे दीदार की तमन्ना तो है मगर जल्दी नहीं, 
थोड़ी देर तो ठहर अभी धूप ढली कहाँ है। 
दिल की हसरतें हैं  तो अनेक मगर इंतजाम नहीं
साकी थोड़ी सी पिला दे तो बीमार को आराम मिले।

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Helplessness of Pune Traffic Cops

Traffic chaos is not a new thing in Pune. But this one incident happened couple of days back is still fresh in my mind and worth writing as it both amused me and made me think.

As usual i was driving on Baner Road to reach my office in Yerwada. At the intersection of Baner and Aundh, there was red signal so i stopped. One noticeable change these days is that there are lots of cops near intersections looking for people without helmets. So there were 2 cops on that intersection both of them separated by some distance, so that they can catch traffic violators.

Now a red hatchback car, jumped the red signal. Seeing this first one asked him to stop, but the driver simply ignored him and kept driving. Now at the sight of this second cop, started waving frantically at car with unmistakable intention to stop. But driver chose to ignore him and kept driving.

When second cop saw that car will not stop, he started whistling. I saw that there was a third cop standing little farther away. Now i thought that this fellow is in big trouble, as this cop will surely catch him. But to my amazement, driver simply accelerated and put on more speed and he simply went away.

Third cop just gave a shrug and went back to look after other vehicles. Now this is alarming that if 3 cops are not able to stop one traffic violator, how well equipped are to handle serious criminals.
It is a clear cut case of shortage of police force in context of growing urban population and lack of infrastructure to communicate and record basic details (ex. 3 of them noticed the registration plate and it could be easily recorded).

Hope it changes soon.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Book Review : A Game of Thrones

It has been a long time since many months i have been so engraved in a book as the "A Game of Thrones". I have just finished the first book in this series of 5 books and it has been a great journey so far.

What is so great about this book

  1. The canvas is big. It has many characters and many many stories beautifully joining together in the main plot. If i may be bold enough it is on the same league as that of Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings.
  2. It opens your imagination in a big way. Be it the "Imp" Tyrion Lannister or Eddard Stark. All of the characters have very very interesting personalities.
  3. Story revolves around the character slowly and slowly. Like you are undoing a dress fabric by fabric. Doesn't that feel nice. The chapters are neither too small nor big enough. Thus they keep you engrossed and engaged.

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Life must go on



Torn and tired, but life must go on.
So many unfulfilled desires, but cannot complain.
A mask is needed to keep appearances, show must go on.
 
In the journey found some shades and some more thorns,
Loved those shades and loved those thorns.
Proud of the path, it belongs to no one. 
Let's keep on going, as life must go on.



(c) 2014 Anup Mayank

Thursday, July 10, 2014

A Sister who couldn't forgive her brother

A call came in today morning. As i was busy in bathroom getting ready for office, I asked my wife - "Please check who is it?"

Few minutes later she came back to tell me that our cousin uncle Radheshyam Jha has passed away last night. He has not been keeping well for quite a some time and of course many of it were attributed to the long life he had. He has just celebrated his 90th birthday few months ago. These days i am forced to live a city life either by necessessity or by design. And thus i have not been able to visit my village very often. Maybe once in a year or two, and even that is a very rushed time bound visits. But i still fondly remember the days when we (me and my brother and sister) used to 2 months in our summer vacation. It doesn't seem that long ago. We always looked forward to our visit there, to see the beautiful mango gardens and rice fields and our beloved Radheshyam uncle.

He was always a sweet and genial person. It appeared that trouble and sorrow were either afraid of him or he had made a secret pact with them to not disturb him in public. One can always find him happily doing whatever he was doing. Be it either catching fishes from the family pond, or instructing workers on farming or talking with people on several village related issues. If we compare his achievements then we can say that he wasn't very successful in money wise, but it never bothered him.

We were his cousin niece and nephews. His face would always lit up whenever he saw us on our summer visits. We were always spoilt with chocolates, biscuits and ice-creams who were delivered by vendor on a bicycle. He loved children and children loved him.

His family consituted of his wife (Prabha), two children (a son and a daughter who are well settled now), his old widowed mother and his widow sister (Madhura). In his otherwise a very happy life, this was the only sad aspect. His sister who lost her husband after 5 years of their marriage and has been living with her brother ever since. She always seemed to be lost somewhere and kept on murmuring something, which I as a young kid never understood.

It was later when i grew up, i understood the tragedy and even after so many years, it fills my heart with sadness. The story is as this.

In their childhood, Madhura and Radheshyam were very close. They grew up together. Radheshyam was the protective elder brother and Madhura was the sweet little sister. People say that after the marriage of Madhura, Radheshyam was so overcome with loneliness for his younger sister that he didn't talk to any one for a month, till the sister came back to celebrate one of the post marriage ceremonies. That's how close they were. With the grace of god, Madhura had a baby boy after a year of marriage. Radheshyam uncle was extremely happy and very fond of his nephew. He never lost an opportunity to either bring his sister back home or go to visit her whenever the occasion arose.

Then came the unfortunate incident of death of Madhura's husband in a  road accident. It was a thunderstrike on the whole family, turning all happiness into sorrow. Everyone was talking - "What will happen to poor girl? Who will take care of her? Who will look after the young kid?" It was unbearable for Radheshyam to see his sister in any distress. He reasoned with her in-laws and brought her to live with him. As they say time heals most of the wounds. Couple of years went by. By this time he also got married to Prabha and had his first child a beautiful daughter. Prabha is also a very loving person. She accepted Madhura as her own sister and her child as her own child. Sister in laws were living very happily with the two kids growing and as ever Radheshyam was the pillar of strength.

Alas the happy moments were very short lived. It so happened that one afternoon Madhura's son started complaining of stomach ache. Everyone thought that he must have eaten something and has a normal stomach upset. They gave him some home remedies. Initially he seemed to get better and everyone relaxed. But in evening he started vomiting. He kept on vomiting for 4 hours with an interval of 30 minutes or so. His body became warm too. The local village doctor was called in. He inspected but couldn't figure out the root cause. As it was already past midnight, he gave some medicine to bring the fever down and advised to take him to city doctor as soon as possible in morning.

The whole night Madhura kept her son in her lap. Radheshyam was also sitting with her. Madhura would ask in between - "Brother will my son get better?". Radheshyam would reply - " Of course sister. It is just a matter of few hours. I will take him to the best doctor and he will be fine and play with you in no time." His consoling words had the calming strength on Madhura. But destiny has something else in mind. In morning when the doctor came again to check before taking kid to hospital, he found that kid was not breathing and didn't have any pulse. He said it was of no use taking him anywhere.

It was a shock. People started preparing for funeral and final rites. But Madhura was lost in time. She was not ready to believe that her child is no more. She kept on repeating - " Don't you dare touch him. My brother has told me , that he is going to take him to a good doctor who will treat him in no time. Can't you see that he is sleeping. Don't you disturb him. Where is my brother?"

Radheshyam was such grief stricken and was unaware to bring himself to his little sister. But people urged him and explained that "Final rites need to be performed soon otherwise body will start decaying." With a stone on his heart, he went to his sister. Seeing him, Madhura cried - "Brother look at these people. They are saying such nasty things about your nephew. When will you take him to doctor. Brother please hurry." Radheshyam hugged his sister and said - "Dear Sister. Don't worry. I will take care of your son. Give him to me." This was a white lie, but it was necessary. Then only Madhura gave her son to Radheshyam thinking that he is going to doctor.

The whole day Madhura was waiting for his son and brother to return home. Nobody had heart to tell her the truth. They asked her to eat something which she refused saying - " I am waiting for my brother. He will bring back my son. Then we all will eat together."

In the evening Radheshyam came home after performing all the rituals of funeral. Madhura was confused to see him alone and asked him - "Brother, where is my son. Why is he not with you. Is he playing outside. Let me get him." Radheshyam didn't had courage to lie any more. He caught hold of her hand and said - "My sister. I am very sorry. Your son is dead. Please forgive me." And then he started crying bitterly. Madhura was stunned to hear his words. For some minutes she just stood standing there like a statue. The she gave him the first slap on his face and then another and another and kept on doing that till her hands got tired. People tried stopping her, but Radheshyam asked them not to interfere.

Since that day Madhura had lost all her worldly senses. She was a living dead. Her sister in law took all care of her - her eating, her dress change and all her needs. But Madhura wouldn't say anything. Only time she spoke was when she saw her brother and said - "Brother, where is my son?" to which Radheshyam had no answers.

Madhura just died few years ago. After her death Radheshyam also fell ill as if he has fulfilled all his duty and now his time has come. His whole life he had this guilt of betraying his sister's trust and hoped that his sister would forgive him.

Today on hearing his death news, i close my eyes and imagine that both brother and sister are in heavenly garden and playing together as they used to do in their childhood.

Copyright 2014 @Anup Mayank